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Stop Striving for Perfection


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As I read Genesis 42 – 45 and I see the way Joseph reacted to meeting his brothers in Egypt, the ones who betrayed him, sold him into slavery, tore him away from all that he knew, loved and trusted and left him at the mercy of strangers in a strange land. I was struck by the imperfections of man. “indeed, there is no one earth who is righteous, no one who does what is right and never sins”.

I am not saying Joseph was wrong and that he should have forgiven and revealed himself to his brothers immediately instead of playing games with them. What struck me was despite the maturity, growth and wisdom (fear of God) that Joseph had shown, he was still human and the pain, hurt and sorrow he must have felt since the age of 15, the age his brothers betrayed him (correct me if I am wrong), had still stayed with him despite God’s hands clearly being with Joseph in Egypt.

So, I say don’t hold yourself to unrealistic/unattainable standards thinking as a Christian, I can never sin or act in a negative manner and if you do, don’t condemn yourself or be too harsh with yourself. We are only human and God sees all our imperfections and He who created us for His pleasure and will, loves us regardless.

Remember – “Indeed, there is no one on earth who is righteous, no one who does what is right and never sins” Ecclesiastes 7:20.

“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever” Psalm 73:26.

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made in weakness” 2 Corinthians 12:9.

Failure is Not Fatal…We were not Made for that!



Winston Churchill once said, “Success in not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts”. This is so true, failure is NOT fatal and there is a need to stop leaving life like such and I have been guilty of such. Letting the fear of failure rule me to such a state that instead of focusing on what needs to be done and how to achieve /accomplish each task. I find myself instead focusing and thinking of what might go wrong. What an unhealthy way to live and think.

I always say behavior becomes patterns and patterns become habit and before you know it, these behaviors will become patterns and habits and will start to encroach on every area of your life. Take note of my experience, watch the way you think. Remembering…

2 Timothy 1:7 – For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.

John 10:10 …. I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

The Fallacy That Can Be Human Understanding



Have you ever noticed how you can rely on human logic so much that it hinders your faith walk? Faith is believing in what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Faith does not rely on human logic or on what it can see. 

I never noticed how much I approach life with such trust in my own understanding. As I read the story of Joshua and read how God said to them – do these things even after He had promised that Jericho’s wall will fall. I said to myself but why? Why did the Israeli Army have to march around six times before the final march and shout? Also, when God directed them to cross the river Jordan and I found myself asking why did they have to stand in the water; carry a stone and everything else? To my own human understanding, I could not see the point to it all.

Forgetting that His ways are not my ways and His thoughts are not my thoughts.

Without even realizing that trust and faith must be shown by us. I realize that my first instinct when things happen is to apply my own human understanding and it has gotten to the point where it has started to hinder my faith walk without me realizing it.

When God commands you to do something… you do it, “because you said so, I will” should be my natural default not hmm but this does not make sense or I don’t see the point of it.

In this world, one must be careful with their words, thoughts, attitude and actions. You don’t ever want to fall into the trap of I won’t listen or move till I see it, understand it or convince myself this must be the way. God speaks to us all through so many ways, directly and indirectly. So, when He sends people to us to guide us, it is very important that we have eyes that see, ears that hear and a heart that obeys, listen and discerns.

Can you see how the stormy winds have won our deliverance??

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As I read the devotional “Streams in the Desert by L.B. Cowman”, the thought that came to mind was – Can I not see that all the storms in my life have brought me deliverance? I only have to look at the bible and see the truth of these words. As with Joseph, the evil his brothers meant for him, God used it for good.  Same also with the Israelites, before they crossed the red sea. The Egyptian army behind them and the red sea in front of them. But yet that sea blocking their path parted and made way for them and Christ himself, his crucifixion – “For the joy set before him, he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God”.

Excerpts from Streams in the Desert – L.B. Cowman

The Lord made an east wind blow across the land all that day and all that night. By morning the wind had brought the locust…Pharaoh quickly summoned Moses and Aaron…And the Lord changed the wind to a very strong west wind, which caught up the locusts and carried them into the Red Sea. Not a locust was left anywhere in Egypt. (Exodus 10:13, 16, 19).

In these verses we see how in ancient times, when the Lord fought for Israel against the cruel Pharaoh, it was stormy winds that won their deliverance. And again later, in the greatest display of His power, God struck the final blow to the proud defiance of Egypt with stormy winds. Yet at first it seemed that a strange and almost cruel thing was happening to Israel (How many times have I thought these words of my heavenly father, never seeing never understanding what was really at play) They were hemmed in by a multitude of dangers: in front, a raging sea defied them,; on either side, mountains cut off any hope of escape; and above them, a hurricane seemed to blow. It was as if the first deliverance had come only to hand them over to a more certain death. “The Israelites looked up, and there were the Egyptians, marching after them. They were terrified and cried out to the Lord” (Ex: 14:10) – very smart….cry out to the Lord always… (only option). Continue reading “Can you see how the stormy winds have won our deliverance??”

PassionCityChurch – Don’t Waste Your Pain, Don’t Waste Your Life Series

There are times when you come across a very powerful message that puts your eyes back on God and puts everything in perspective. There is nothing left for me to add , so pls. watch the link below and I hope the message reaches you like it did me. God is great and I believe am seeing the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living!screen-shot-2017-02-22-at-11-46-28-am-copy

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How do You/ How can You move ON???

Came across the sermon below and I was completely taken by it. The message was so simple but powerful and it answered the main question I have been asking myself for some time now. When things get ugly, horrible, evil and painful how do you move on??? How can you move on???  Charles Stanley said it powerfully …”Remember how you were saved”

Pls. watch and I hope the message below lifts you up like it did me.



The human spirit can endure in sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear? – Proverbs 18:14 NIV

A crushed spirit is one who has no hope, who has no faith, who has no trust in the Lord and just blows wherever the wind of life blows and worst of all a crushed spirit is one who rejects God without even knowing it and blames Him for the scars that life keeps cutting them with.

Not seeing, not understanding and not learning that the trials and the circumstances are supposed to yield perseverance, character and a closer relationship to God. But instead one with a crushed spirit just sits in their own pain and anger and does not grow or heal…“but a crushed spirit who can bear?” – No one.

“A person’s own folly leads to their ruin, yet their heart rages against the Lord”  – Proverbs 19:3  


Is Nigeria’s Past Ruling Nigeria’s Future?

I came across an interesting read about the history of Nigeria and how one action has affected the country of Nigeria for 50 years. The coup on January 15th 1966. The article published by “January 15th 1966 the day that changed Nigeria” – I recommend this read, very thought provoking (link to article below).

I read this and I thought ironic isn’t it. The Coup was done because of the alleged corruption of senior officials 50 years later corruption is a standard in Nigeria.


History is the Future

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. - Albert Einstein

History is said to be about the past but as time goes on I discover that history is actually also the future. If you ask me I think it is a great forecasting tool.  History tells you what will happen if you make decisions that have been made in the past, the results will never change. Like Albert Einstein said “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.)

So history tells you what exactly will happen if you do the same thing over and over again. History might not give you the specific details but it will surely give you the basic result time and time again. This applies to everything we humans do, for example, something as simple as preparing for an exam or a job interview. If you don’t do the necessary preparations (if you don’t do the work) then you will not get the positive results you want and will keep getting the negative result time and time again.

So ask yourself, when you get frustrated with where you are in life and why things are the way they are, am I making the same life decisions over and over again? Am I doing anything different?  

If one does not learn from past mistakes then one is doomed to repeat it.


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